Flipping Your Script, Rewrite Your Story

Have you ever stopped to listen to the way you talk to yourself? The thoughts of “I’m too old,” “I always fail,” or “I’m stuck” can quietly become the story you believe. But what if those thoughts are just an old script that needs rewritten?

In this episode of Beautiful Chaos, Tammy and Staci talk about quieting the inner narrator, calming emotional triggers, healing old patterns, and learning how to flip your script so you can create a healthier, happier future.

✨ Topics include:
 • Negative self-talk
 • Emotional triggers
 • Nervous system regulation
 • Breathing & mindfulness
 • Manifestation & mindset

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Transcript

SPEAKER_02 0:05

What if the voice in your head isn't even really yours?

SPEAKER_01 0:10

What if it's an old parent wound or like an ex-relationship, some past failure that you had, or fear, which we have plenty of that, that you replay so often it starts to feel like the truth.

SPEAKER_02 0:22

Right. Today we're talking about how to flip your script, how to calm the inner narrator, regulate your reactions, rewrite the story you tell yourself by listening to those little voices, right? And start manifesting the future you actually live in.

SPEAKER_00 0:41

It's a beautiful chaos to spend some. It's a beautiful chaos. Sometimes sometimes a pay to sweet push this beautiful chaos.

SPEAKER_02 1:10

Welcome to Beautiful Chaos. I'm Tammy Ramsey. And I'm Stacey Miller. And today our episode is flip your script, rewrite your story. Yep. So things that we talk we think about, like what's what got this going in my mind was I had a flashback. I've been married to my husband for 29 years, and it still amazes me that old wounds pop up. Those old voices and responses pop up in very emotional moments. So I was venting about something to my husband, just venting. You know, women, we do that.

SPEAKER_01 1:52

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:53

A lot.

SPEAKER_01 1:54

It feels better when you get it out. Sometimes you just gotta get it out. Yeah. And you don't let it, you don't let it fester.

SPEAKER_02 1:59

Yeah, but men normally want to fix it. And um, for some reason though, Kevin got very defensive of the person that I was complaining about. And so he like was yelling at me, and my hackles got up, my little defense thing got on, and I felt attacked, and and he left for the day as I'm sitting there going, old me, he hates me, he hates me. And then I instantly stopped and went, wait a minute, this isn't your past. Right. This wasn't the previous person in your life. He doesn't hate you. He's upset, something has happened in in his day, right, in his night, whatever, that that created this very emotional reaction.

SPEAKER_01 2:47

But I think that's really fair. I think that especially in some sort of trigger-inducing situation like that where somebody is yelling at you, yeah, um can easily dig up an old wound. Because I think that we try today, and and I would hope everyone is trying, at maybe if you're close to or around our age, to live in a home, enough family, and uh relationships and even a work environment where you're not in a constant state of trauma or defense and things like that. And so when it does come up, it shouldn't feel normal.

SPEAKER_03 3:23

Right.

SPEAKER_01 3:23

And because it doesn't feel normal, it might feel like a really old normal from childhood or an old relationship. And so I think it's very, very normal to have that because that should not be something that happens very often.

SPEAKER_02 3:34

Right, and it doesn't, and so I do think that it throws you off. But I I think that um recognizing that your feelings, where they're coming from, right, is the first step in being able to settle your mind down, understand what's happening, and be able to show compassion for the other person. Right. So, with that being said, this is what um is this episode is about is flipping your script. What things you tell yourself. Like if I'm telling myself this person is yelling at me, so they hate me, I need to stop and go, that's not the truth. What is the actual truth? And question myself on it and go, that's you know, that's that's something from the previous wound, and we're gonna and we're gonna move on.

SPEAKER_01 4:22

Well, and if we talk about what when we say flipping the script, let's talk about what the script really is. So the script is gonna be what we would call like your inner voice, but I think everyone's inner voice is different, and I've learned recently that some people don't narrate as much as others do. I feel like my inner voice is a constant narration of the day, and you know what I'm doing, what I'm gonna say to the next the person next, and it does kind of run through my brain first. And I think that um some people I've learned don't have like an inner narrative, which I think is very odd. I mean, I'm sure that they're still guided by thoughts and things like that, but they're not necessarily having a constant um dialogue happening. For me, I think mine is more of a constant dialogue, same, same.

SPEAKER_02 5:08

But your inner voice can also be like hearing your parents from when you were younger, or a teacher who didn't believe that you could do something, or my grandmother who said you can't sing. I don't know what you're doing, but you're not singing.

SPEAKER_01 5:20

Right, or or an ex from the past that maybe was not the best um influence on our life, right?

SPEAKER_02 5:26

A painful past moment, and there actually have um some information out there. There was a a a Harvard professor, oh, I can't remember her name, but they did some research and found that um, and she was a psychologist, that childhood trauma, even though you don't remember it, it brings up physical remnants through situations or or or different things like that.

SPEAKER_01 5:53

So well, and I think it's also only fair to say that part of your narrative also is gonna come from a really positive teacher that may have impacted you really well, or a really great mentor that you lean into, or maybe you listen regularly to some sort of self-help podcast, or read really great books, and maybe that internal narrative is now starting to take over some of the negative stuff. The problem is that old adage of like you can do the right thing nine times, and on the tenth time you mess up, and that's the only time anyone's gonna remember, is the tenth time that you messed up.

SPEAKER_02 6:24

Or you're going to remember.

SPEAKER_01 6:25

Or that you're going to remember.

SPEAKER_02 6:26

And you're going to beat yourself up about, and you're going to forget that you did it nine other times and you did it great.

SPEAKER_01 6:32

Yeah. So I think the focus on maybe the more negative impacts to our internal dialogue comes from the fact that those ones are going to be a lot louder in certain situations and they're going to weigh on us a lot differently.

SPEAKER_02 6:45

Right, exactly. So um being aware of what you're feeling and where it's coming from, like like when I navigated that whole situation, and it's taken me years and years. Back when we were first married, yeah. Oh my gosh, like if I was sick and laying on the couch and I'm just like, you know, feel like I'm dying, because I'm that whanny of a person that has to sleep it off. You get the man called. I do, I do totally admit it. And but Kevin would come in and he would not say anything, he would just be like, Well, how are you doing? And he'd walk out. And I would instantly be like, Oh my gosh, he hates me. He thinks I'm a horrible person.

SPEAKER_01 7:24

All these things before thinks I'm lazy, yes.

SPEAKER_02 7:28

Like all these judgment things that he wasn't thinking at all, but that was previous relationships that that happened. So this has taken me, I mean, 29 years of marriage to be able to. And so um, we let it go. So some things that I've I've learned to do to help me through those emotional moments. And I think, and you probably have a lot of stuff that you could share too, with like how you deal with things like on 911 calls, or because I I think that we all have different processes, but yeah one of the biggest things that uh I I've learned over the years through counseling, through um reading self-help books, through watching or listening to podcasts, is it a breathing. And anytime that you're feeling like your hackles are up, yeah, you just need to just close your eyes for a minute. I call it like a four-minute vacation. It's not even four minutes, but you just take deep breaths in and breathe out of your mouth very slowly and do that four times, and and that can help calm your nervous system, which is your sympathetic nervous system. No, wait. Yeah. Sympathetic nervous system is the one that's like I'm going to lose my marbles any second. So that breathing can actually stop that trigger response of you wanting to lash out, you wanting to respond with a loud voice. Because we also, I learned from my sister-in-law Kimmy, mirror, right? So, like if if you're yelling at me, I'm going to respond yelling at you because I'm mirroring your energy, your response, your body language.

SPEAKER_01 9:27

And I think coming from a 911 dispatcher perspective, I'll give you kind of two examples for that. I can't stop and take a breath if the energy is really high on a call. Right. But we have like um pedals under our desk. And for me, if I put my energy there and I get my feet going, then this part of me stays really calm because my feet are pedaling. And sometimes, depending on how crazy we're getting, my feet are like this. But my my voice and my body is maybe really calm looking, or at least calm sounding, I hope. And I think with the the matching, that's true. But I've worked in either customer service call centers, being on the phone or 911 for a really, really long time. And so one of the skills that you learn with that is the more escalated the other person gets, the quieter that you get. Quieter you gotta get. Yeah. So that you can even even working in a drive-thru, fast food drive-thru, if you get a if I would get like a really, really loud truck that would come up and their engine is clearly taking over the speaker and there's no way you're ever gonna hear this person, what I would notice is a lot of people would get up to the they would get onto their speaker and say, How can I help you? And I was like, No, no, we're not gonna do that. What I do is I get onto the speaker and I go, How can I help you? What can I get for you today? As and I know it's but it's reverse psychology, right? Because then they go, I can't hear that lady at all. I should turn my truck off. And then they turn their truck off and they go, Oh, sorry, I couldn't hear you. I'd like uh, you know, burger fries and a drink. And I'm like, Oh, I'd be happy to get that for you. Sounds great. I love it. But it's just a reversal, you know, if you keep talking calm, you're the calm, then it brings them actually down. Now, there are definitely sometimes in 911 situations where people cannot find their calm. It is the worst day of their life if they're calling 911.

SPEAKER_03 11:16

Right.

SPEAKER_01 11:17

Sometimes you have to say the right thing very sternly. Like I need you to take a couple of deep breaths and speak clearly and let me know what's going on in order for us to help you. And when you make it really clear that you're gonna have to breathe through this so that I can provide you help, that usually triggers something for people to realize, oh wow, I didn't realize how not calm I am.

SPEAKER_03 11:37

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 11:37

And they take a deep breath and they say, This is my address, this is what's happening, and we at least get to there, and then usually they'll go back into their hyper sense, which is totally fine, but at least we can get them calm to get the uh necess necessary information.

SPEAKER_02 11:51

So yeah, and this this method of mirroring works with kids too. If your kid child is upset, yeah, instead of you getting upset and responding, you need to take the deep breaths and then respond in a calm, lower your voice, how you want them to be because that's your job is to help calm.

SPEAKER_01 12:12

Yeah, which is also why they always recommend coming down to your child's level. Yeah, eye to eye. You know, coming, yeah, coming eye to eye with them, because you're already very overpowering when you're coming up at them from this and you're saying this and this and this. But when you're down at an eye level, it makes it easier for you to have a level conversation. But this is true with relationships at work, your husband, all of these things. You know, if you and your husband decide that we're gonna start to hash it out, like if you think about when you were venting, he starts yelling. If you would have not responded with yelling back and would have said, I'm not sure what's made you so upset today, but I don't think it's me. Can we talk about this differently or maybe at a different time? And then bringing it down like that would probably trigger him to say, Oh crap, I don't know where that came from either. Sorry, like I didn't I didn't realize I got so mad so fast for really no reason. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 13:07

And it yeah, that would have been a good thing to say. Yeah. I just we just kind of separated and came back together, and I apologized for responding to his reactions and asked him what was going on with you that you were stressed. I kind of like to understand. And then he actually apologized.

SPEAKER_01 13:23

Which like you know, Mark that's but we quiet that inner voice when everything gets very loud. So it's a matter of bringing it down so we can still hear what what we're trying to do to keep ourselves balanced.

SPEAKER_02 13:34

Right. And some of the things that we can do to keep ourselves balanced is you know, you start with your deep breathing and then you ask yourself, what am I feeling right now? And and a lot of the times it's like it's like dealing with emotions. You're gonna you're gonna name your emotion. Yep, I'm really mad. Okay, where's that mad feel? Is it in your face? Is it in your chest, like this weight?

SPEAKER_01 13:57

Don't clench your feet, though.

SPEAKER_02 13:59

Yeah, because I do that. Yeah, then you're all intense. Like, yeah, where are you feeling it in your body? And then you can notice what it is and then breathe through it and and at least get some breathing going on so that you can accept and then you can talk about.

SPEAKER_01 14:15

Is this happening about or is this like reaction about something that's happening now? Or is it or is it about something that happened before?

SPEAKER_02 14:22

Right. Is this one of those? I think one of the other episodes I talked about how if if we wore all of our emotional wounds like we do actual wounds, we would have band-aids everywhere on our bodies. And and when one of those band-aids gets ripped off and somebody pokes it, you know, that's that that's that that emotional place that you come from that your your mind doesn't hear anything, it just feels this poking.

SPEAKER_01 14:51

Right. And then we have to think to ourselves, in this moment, do I want to react or do I want to respond? Because generally your reaction is going to be very emotional and it's gonna be very charged, and it might not be the the reaction that you're hoping for, but if we're responding, then it could be, you know, there's a great lesson that's taught in counseling regularly, which is that we say to somebody not necessarily, hey, you're a pain in the neck, yeah, but maybe say, When you say this to me, you make me feel in this way. So it's that same sort of concept.

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SPEAKER_01 16:29

Absolutely, thank you.

SPEAKER_02 16:30

So uh a lot of this um emotional um intelligence, yeah, uh part of it I learned very young uh and by reading a book called Pulling Your Own Strings. And I can't remember the author, but I remember it just it really amazed me because it even talked about funerals. Okay, we choose to be sad and emotional, and all the responses were choosing those responses, and sometimes we feel in our minds we're thinking, This, I have no control over my emotions. I have no control. This is just oh, I'm just gonna fall. But really, you do, but you have to breathe through it and understand what's happening within your body to be able to settle your body down. Another really good audible book that I've been listening to is The Magic Shop by James Dotty. And he passed away because I was I was reading this going, oh my gosh, I would love to have him on our podcast, I would love to interview him because he's just so he is very kind of emotional. He has a very good story, very soft-hearted. Yes, but he talks about learning to settle his starting with his toes all the way up, calming his body and breathing.

SPEAKER_01 17:48

Which let me just say, yeah, if you can't fall asleep at night, yeah, it's such a great tactic to just start from your toes. And while you're deep breathing, are my toes relaxed? Are my ankles relaxed? And you just slowly work your way up. And sometimes you can't make it all the way to the top because you already fall asleep, or if you start from the top and you work your way down, you might not make it all the way to your toes. But it is such a good way to just sort of because sometimes I don't know if you've ever noticed this, but you're trying to like fall asleep in bed and you don't realize that you're actually holding yourself up on the pillow a little bit, you actually haven't let go and sunk into the pillow. Yeah. Or you haven't noticed that you've not unclenched your jaw yet, or that you've got your, if you sleep like a Tyrannosaurus Rex, like I do, and you've got your hands like clenched up like this, and I make a conscious effort to like let go of my hands, lay them somewhere, pull my shoulders into the bed, pull my head and neck into the bed and make sure that I'm like fully relaxed. But it's a great way to fall asleep. It's also a great way to just do a check, like she's saying, you you're just gonna do a mind check and make sure that you're balanced and you're relaxed all the way through.

SPEAKER_02 18:54

Yeah. So, um, and going back to the you know, we we have to be able to control our emotions, to control our own selves if we are um in a situation where someone is hyperactive emotionally and yelling or upset or whatever, we can, like you said, you know, I should have been very calm in response to Kevin and been like, well, I wonder where that's coming from for you, and asked those questions and chose to come from a compassionate place instead of, you know, I just felt like my band-aid was ripped off and I was poked, so I was like, But if I'd have been able to go, okay, that's let me put that band-aid back on because that really that wasn't what he meant to do, and I need to have compassion for him because something's going on that's that's causing this.

SPEAKER_01 19:48

And it's also fair that both of you could have been right, right? You could have been venting about something very accurate, yeah, for whatever reason it offended him. His his reason for being offended could also be very accurate, and then maybe you realize that hey, we're both right in this situation, but for whatever reason we triggered each other with these two facts, and they're still facts and they still both happened.

SPEAKER_02 20:09

Yeah. So yeah, I think that um that's great to to look at it that way as well. And and you know, different personalities don't always communicate the same way. No, and men and women don't communicate the same way because just like I was venting, but he was trying to fix it.

SPEAKER_01 20:29

And um and then he got upset because what he anyways, it's men are fixers, they're nice and shining armor, and we're very grateful that they fix everything for us. Sometimes I'll say to my husband when I'm about to vent, I will actually preface it with I don't need you to fix this. I just need you to listen. Or I'll say, I'm gonna vent to you the things that happen inside my head what I would never tell somebody else because they might sound like selfish or it might sound like self-serving, but it's because sometimes you do have certain things in your own head that you wouldn't share with everybody, but I can share some of those things with my husband, like, hey, I think I did a really good job with XYZ today, like at work or whatever it is. And he'll be like, Yeah, you did do a really good job. I'm like, I'm never gonna go to work and say I think this is such a great job. But sometimes I need to vent that to him and say, Here's this, all these things that happened, and I think I responded really well.

SPEAKER_02 21:23

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 21:24

And it's nothing for him to fix, but it's something that only he's ever gonna hear.

SPEAKER_02 21:28

Yeah, yeah. You're not gonna go and tell everybody that for sure. So um another thing is uh talking about you know flipping your script. Yeah, I think that recognizing what your script is, and I don't think real people realize, and I catch myself still, I catch myself doing it, saying, Oh, I'm so stupid. Like, why did I I I didn't do this? Oh, I'm so stupid. And then I've been catching myself lately though, going, no, no, no, that might have been a stupid thing to do, yeah, but I'm I'm not stupid. Right.

SPEAKER_01 22:01

Or some people think I so the other one is like you just fail a lot. Yeah. And I think that that one's easy because we do feel like we talked about in the last podcast, we're fair scared of success, scared of failure. And I think those are the exact same fear. And so sometimes we will, well, see, I failed again. Oh, well, see, I failed again. I think the other one is that's um not listed is uh so lazy. I I say that to myself more than any. I this the stupid or or failure, maybe not as much as lazy. I'm always accusing myself of being lazy. And then I'll correct myself and be like, Really? Because your three hours of sleep you had last night and between the four community board meetings that you went to and the nine hours of work where you were stressed out and did XYZ, like you're lazy?

SPEAKER_03 22:49

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 22:50

Like it's okay to go home and rest, even if the laundry needs done and you're not getting to it, or even if the dishes need done and maybe you're gonna let them sit for a minute. Like, sometimes it's okay to just go home and rest because you have to allow yourself that, or you're no good to anybody.

SPEAKER_02 23:04

Right. We we talked about that in a previous episode, too. Give yourself permission to rest, and that is something we're both at a downfall for. Right. But it also makes you think tying into this episode even more is whose voice is that in your head and my head that's saying you're lazy if you sit down for a few minutes. Where does that come from? Like there there has to be somewhere in life that we've experienced someone insinuating that to us or flat out saying it to us. And I can't remember off, but it could have been any younger. So young we don't remember.

SPEAKER_01 23:46

We just know exactly where that comes from for me, but at the end of the day, I I I can put the blame on somebody else and say, well, they used to always tell me I was lazy, but at the end of the day, I'm been adult for a long time, yeah. So it's I've let it stay in my head and in my vocabulary, and so for me, it's my responsibility to change that narrative. It's not somebody else's responsibility to go back 20, 30 years and fix it for me.

SPEAKER_02 24:18

Right. And I'm not saying that that's that's a case or anything. I'm saying, like for me, it's nice to recognize or just to know that you know what, I there's a reason it's in my brain, and I've got to make the choice. Am I gonna listen to that? Or am I gonna just, you know, turn turn tune that out and go, no, no, like you did. Wait a minute, I just did. I only got three hours of sleep, and I did this and that and the other, and all these meetings. Yeah, it's it's a truth. So, and that's like the same thing with failing. I I I did it right nine times and failed one time, so I'm the worst at this. Right. It's that our brains just automatically seek out ways of protecting us, and its way of protecting us our amygdala is to, well, okay, you failed at that, so we better not try that anymore.

SPEAKER_01 25:10

And then well, and it's just everywhere, it's in society. You have that uh cancel culture, and and cancel culture doesn't have to just be like Hollywood, celebrities, politics, things like that. Yeah, you see cancel culture with um teachers and community members and you know, local things anymore where you know somebody didn't have the right tweet response to a situation, or they didn't um they said one thing that probably could have been said better, and it's like, well, cancel. Yeah, we're done with them. Yeah, get them out.

SPEAKER_02 25:39

Well, which is you know we don't have grace for people anymore. Exactly. Or compassion to know where they're coming from. Yeah, you know, yeah, totally agree. So things that we could do to start recognizing that we even need to flip our script is to actually catch ourselves saying these things. I'm I'm too old to try to do a podcast. No, no, no, no. I'm gonna say, what?

SPEAKER_01 26:02

Is that true?

SPEAKER_02 26:03

Right.

SPEAKER_01 26:04

No, no, everybody's got a target audience, so right?

SPEAKER_02 26:06

We're never too old. That's right. And we're never we're not stupid. Right. You know, we might have done something stupid, but that doesn't define who we are. So anytime you catch yourself saying something, ask yourself if it's true. Like I always fail because that nine times and the one time you didn't, but then you say, Well, wait, I'm I'm learning through this experience. So now I've learned that nine times I did it this particular way, and then I did it this way. Okay, the other nine times works, so I need to do it that way.

SPEAKER_01 26:38

And just to jump off on a tangent on that one too, I know I say a lot on here, and I just can't be a bigger advocate for um the next generation is actually doing better than we give them credit for. I think that they have such better compassion and kindness for each other and things that we didn't expect to see because we thought we were raising these iPad kids and they actually are really, really compassionate people. But when it comes to the failure comment, I, you know, I see things online with this going on at this school and these teachers and these different things, and I see so often schools that have great quotes that are painted in their classroom and painted down their hallways and in their bathrooms. In their bathrooms, the bathroom ones I love, or even when I just go to like local school events, sporting things like that, and one of them I see often is um failure is proof that you're trying.

SPEAKER_03 27:29

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 27:29

And I love that we're just pushing that into this generation and reminding them that you do have to keep trying because you're gonna fail a hundred times and then you're gonna get it right eventually. And so I just think you know, I've had this one struggling in my brain for a while, and I think it's important to say as many times as we can that as parents of whichever generation we are, right? Because there's our parents, us, whatever, we're 15 years old. We're always different. We will say when we're having kids, I just want them to be better than I was, I want them to have more than I did, I want them to be more successful. And what we have to be very careful of is that when they are better than us, and they are more than more successful than us, that we are appreciating that. Yes, and that, and that they are not blaming us because they did better. I'm seeing a lot of that in the world right now, where I'm seeing like the younger generation, most of them, I've I agree, super compassionate, all these things. They're doing really great. But then I'll also see them go, why weren't you the way I am? And blaming the next generation, their parents, their aunts and uncles, whatever, and saying, I've learned all this great compassion, and you weren't that way to me. And that's not really fair because the the we uh are evolved generationally and we they are now better than us in certain ways, and that's great, and now we need to learn from them and make ourselves better today, yes, and then get grace for the fact that we weren't maybe that way 20 years ago. Right, it's a whole cycle, but I just think that you recognize that in your family dynamics somehow, that we we do want our next generation to be better than us when they are. Appreciate that, appreciate it, and then if they're seeing that that you should be blamed for the fact that they're better than us, let's remember that they also need to show compassion, anyways.

SPEAKER_02 29:20

Right, so remind them of that also soapbox. I went through uh a lot of years of counseling, and uh, you know, one thing was you know, hug your inner child. It actually is a thing and it works. I'd put it in my wallet, so every time I'd open my wallet, I'd see, you know, visualize yourself hugging your inner child for all of its pains. But the other thing was to forgive your parents because your parents raise you with what information they have at the time.

SPEAKER_01 29:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 29:46

And we we've talked about this on previous episodes too. I can tell you, all three of our kids came from different are your kids the two girls similar, but James, different, my grandkids. There are different ways that are being taught to parent.

SPEAKER_03 30:04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 30:05

So what everybody knows at this moment, we did not know. We did not know how to process emotions. Right. We didn't know how to name emotions. We were told to shut up and children are seen and not heard. Yes, exactly. And you just put one foot in front of the other and keep pushing through, whatever it is. So, yeah, so that was that was a good soapbox to be on.

SPEAKER_03 30:27

Thanks.

SPEAKER_02 30:28

So other things flipping back to flipping the script. I'm stupid, but really are you? And then ask, you know, look at it, flip the script and say, I'm human and I'm growing because I'm learning from my mistakes. Yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_01 30:42

Um or nothing works, and maybe it's just because you haven't found your way yet. So convince yourself that nothing's working because you need to find a different path, and we're trying to get ourselves on the right path.

SPEAKER_02 30:52

Yeah, and sometimes we're fighting so hard for one path, and there's actually another path that's just waiting and open for us if we would just pray about it, put it in God's hands, and breathe through it and let it happen. Yep. Um, uh another flip your script is I'm too old. And it's like, no, I still have time. Like I can do anything that I want in this life, I just have to decide that I want to do it.

SPEAKER_01 31:18

And then the last one is gonna be I'm broken. Yeah, you know, you we hold on to our old wounds really hard, but maybe instead you can change that script to I'm healing and I'm finding new ways to move past my old wounds.

SPEAKER_02 31:31

Yeah, and our minds and our bodies are miraculous. And what is going on in our mind can create what's going on in our bodies. So if you're carrying wounds from the past, that you keep playing over and and and telling yourself, writing your script that says, I'm broken, I can't fix this, and whatever those things are that are going on, your body is gonna listen to your mind and go, hmm, we're broken. So here's an autoimmune disease.

SPEAKER_03 32:03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 32:03

Oh, here's you know, this issue, whatever it is. And if we start to change our mindset, which we'll get into in the future, we're gonna talk about manifesting your future, but in the next episode, actually.

SPEAKER_03 32:16

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 32:17

Um, but it you can actually create better health in your body by dealing through all of this stuff in your mind.

SPEAKER_01 32:26

Right. Right. So, like she said, our next podcast is gonna be dedicated to the idea of manifestation and kind of where that comes from. And we'll take different angles on it. But for now, we just kind of want to tease some of those ideas because it comes right into play with flipping your script.

SPEAKER_03 32:39

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 32:40

And so when you repeatedly picture and emotionally rehearse what's in your head, you're shaping your direction. So start to see yourself as being someone who's very peaceful.

SPEAKER_02 32:50

Yes, we talk peacefully. Lower, yes, mirror.

SPEAKER_01 32:55

We're loved and we're healthy. You may not feel your healthiest all the time, but I'll actually I'm gonna give you an example in this. I have a fear of the dentist because dang it, I had a dentist who messed that whole thing up for me, and I think everybody kind of has that at some point where you just kind of have a bad experience, and um I wait until there's a problem now, which I don't recommend, and then I call and I bury my little self and I go, I'm so sorry, but like I haven't been in a couple of years, but I now I have a problem, and I'm pretty sure you're gonna pull half my teeth out because I have all these issues. And this is twice now I've done this to poor Dr. Miller, where I walk in and I'm like, I think you're gonna need a pull of tubes, and there's this problem, and these things hurt, and I probably got gingivitis. I have a cavity. That's it. I have one cavity. Oh, you did really good. And my teeth look fine. And the last time I went there and I told him I needed teeth pulled and there was all these problems, I had one cavity. I think I had two cavities that time, but they were just like little minor cavities. I didn't even need a crown. I've never had a root connect. I really gotta stop.

SPEAKER_02 33:55

So think about this. Your mindset was all this negative, worst case scenario. Yeah, and if you'd have stopped yourself and said, but what if the opposite is true? That's an easy way to flip your script. What if the opposite is true? What if I'm gonna go in there? My teeth are gonna be fabulous and everything's going to be fine. Right.

SPEAKER_01 34:14

Which is gonna be a lot easier when I decide to stop being so scared of the dentist and just go regularly. Yes. Um, but yes, in general, even when you have, you know, we're all dealing with some sort of health issue. Uh, you know, we we all are, and we can list them off if you had way more time, but this episode is long already. But I'm walking and I got up today, and I I'm blessed to be healthy enough to go to work every day to function on very little sleep a lot of the time, or you know, have a full set of teeth in my mouth, even if I've got one cavity. I thought I had all these other problems, but really focus on all of the things that you have in your health that make you capable of living this life to its fullest instead of saying, I have this ailment and it and it brings me down and it takes these things away from me.

SPEAKER_02 35:05

Right, because um what you think becomes becomes the narrative of your life. Exactly. So think just good things. And remember, you're not trapped by old voices, you're not required to repeat old reactions. You can calm your body, change your words, yes, and create a new future.

SPEAKER_01 35:27

The voice in your head may have been handed to you by people in the past, but the next chapter can be written by you.

SPEAKER_02 35:33

So you hold the pen. You do, you hold the pin. By the way, I hear your voice a lot in my head. I mean, it's always in a good way. Okay, remember to say hello when you answer the phone. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 35:42

Which I've gotten actually bad about that. I think. I know today you didn't. It's like say hello. We did. We swapped habits or something. Yeah. I just need to get to the point, and she that's the way she used to be. Now she says hello and I forget to. Anyways, thank you so much for joining us on this episode. We look forward to you joining us on the next one where we're going to sort of drive a lot of these things. Yeah, and kind of focus in a little bit more. But until then, stay empowered.